I'm unsure if I want to break up with him or not?

Okay I believe personally after about 4 years of dating things calm down a little. It is not going to be so romantic and perfect. I meen you should still love him and care for him, but in most relationships i think eventually you lose the perfect feeling stuff you know? If you are for the most part happy with the guy and enjoy his company then that is good. If you are breaking up with him because of sex problems that is probably not to good. After 4 years of being together sex is a apart of a relationship, but definatley not an important part. If you 2 are good companions and care for eachother emotionally that is most important. Think about it. Do you want to give this up? I have found in my relationship not to base it off of sex, which im not saying you are completley, but we will hve times were we are very very sexual and times when we are not at all. It just has high and lows with us sometimes we need breaks. But we are together because we work well as a team, love eachother and still care about doing the small things for one another. Things do calm down after awhile, but thats why you have to talk about it and find new stuff to do together, work on it. Relationships have to mature, they change as they get older. I hope this helps.But dont worry about the sex thing, seriously i would be surprised if you guys dont have ups and downs, my boyfriend and i will have months were we are very sexual and others were we are not so much, it just depends.